This is About Your Small Boobs
Today's journal is for thirteen to eighteen-year-old girls. The outdoorsy ones - but also all the ones. If you are a perv or are going to act/comment as such, please go away. If you are a dad or a dude trying to better understand the female experience but don't have boobs yourself, welcome! Just don't be weird.
Hey there. Before I turn into a COMPLETELY OUT OF TOUCH DINOSAUR WHO DOESN'T EVEN UNDERSTAND SNAPCHAT, I want to tell you something. I know your Mom or another trusted adult has probably already told you this but sometimes it helps to hear it from someone who's a little closer to your age. I don't know what it's like to be fifteen years old today but I remember when I was fifteen about a decade ago I was very, very worried about my boobs.
And listen, I was raised with body positivity! With parents who supported and valued me because of my intelligence and compassion, not my looks! I was an athlete! I was taught to value my body for what it did not how it looked.
Which is all to say I was still very, very boy crazy and very, very obsessed with my chest - or lack thereof. And I want to say, you don't need to be ashamed about that. Despite what everyone who matters says (partners, parents, coaches) you are still being bombarded with advertisements (yeah - even the Patagonia and Prana ones) and an overall culture that presents a certain way to look. Maybe Instagram is making this better - like I said, I don't know. I'm not fourteen. Let me know.
But here's what I want to say about boobs. Your small boobs are so, so sexy. Now hold up - people are going to get mad for telling teenagers they are sexy (let them be kids!) but whether we like it or not, you are being sold sex and you are statistically probably thinking about it if not definitely having it. So I'm going to go there, otherwise, the only people you are going to hear about sex from are Hollywood Blockbusters (turns out there are some creeps in that industry), the internet (aka the wild, wild West - some great stuff there, some awful stuff) and advertising.
A small chest has a lot of practical advantages that your parents have probably told you about while you were ordering expensive push-up bras online. Less back pain! Less chance of breast cancer! Fitting into button-up shirts! But none of that matters because JASON MILLER YOUR CRUSH ONLY DATES GIRLS WHO ARE AT LEAST C CUPS, MOM.
So I want to tell you this, from a decade as a small-breasted-warrior in the field who has had just fine success with some really handsome, athletic, interesting dudes. You are going to find a partner who loves your body exactly the way it is. And you are going to find a partner that thinks some other part of your body (like your strong shoulder muscles) are amazingly sexy too. Sexy is about heart and attitude and confidence, not your body. Your boobs will change and grow and shrink with age and pregnancy and exercise and hormones. One day you'll look down and be like, "Dang! This is exactly what I wanted when I was fifteen!" You will hang, 50m up a rock wall while your belay partner complains about how she can't see her footwork because of her chest and you are going to whisper a little "I love you" to both your A-cup boobs. You are going to buy the sports bras and bralettes with the strappy backs and not worry about support.
I know it doesn't matter because REMEMBER ABOUT JASON MILLER, EMERALD! And I want to assure you that Jason doesn't know what the he wants or likes forever, he's fifteen. It's okay to spend high school focusing on school, sports and friends - not romantic partners. There is going to be so much time to obsess about finding that special person later. If I can't convince you to exist for some reason outside of boys or girls you want to kiss (like I said, I was big time boy crazy as a teen, I get it) I'll say that the men and women worth a damn here in my late twenties are dating the women who are weird and driven and passionate and athletic and intelligent and awake to the world. It's okay to let everyone grow up a little bit and learn to appreciate you for exactly who and how you are.
In the meantime - those boobs are going to be with you as you climb mountains and take your first backpacking trip and learn to drive a car and paddle your first Class IV rapid and go on your first ski trip with friends and no parents. So give 'em some appreciation. Chances are they'll be with you a lot longer than Jason.